“For He has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son He loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.
In today’s world people are desperate to feel valued and scrambling to find their worth. Popular magazines write articles about value and self-love. There is a plethora of self help books covering this same topic. Music apps are full of songs with lyrics revolving around finding one’s worth.
There are many ways people define their worth too. Some chase after success. If they are successful in their career, their relationships, athleticism, etc. they feel worthy. Others define their worth solely in romantic relationships. If they’re dating or married, that means someone loves them and that person’s love, makes them feel worthy. Then there are those who define their worth in their looks. Physical fitness, perfectly coiffed hair, daily make-up regimes that are professional grade and wearing designer labels makes them feel as valuable as a rare diamond.
Working hard and having a successful career is a good thing. Being a top performing athlete is a great thing. Doing the work for a steady and trustworthy relationship is definitely something to celebrate. Even taking care of your body and valuing how you look is important. But-none of those things make you anymore or any less valuable that someone else. That is a sentence that may be quite upsetting for some to read. Upsetting or not, the truth is, success, marriage, dating, having a super model body, even being an Olympian athlete, does not make you any more valuable than someone who doesn’t work, isn’t into sports, may be overweight and perhaps single, divorced or in a bad relationship.
We wear ourselves out placing our worth in material things and in human beings. When our worth is defined through the success of our business, what happens when that business fails or we lose our job? Does that make us a failure? Not at all. When we define our worth in our relationship status, what happens when our spouse wants a divorce, our partner cheats on us or we’re chronically single for a decade? Does being single with an empty date card make someone less valuable that a married couple who are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary? I certainly hope not because personally, I’m on year nine of that “chronic singleness with an empty date card” path. How about overweight people? Are they less valuable than someone who works out hours a day twelve times a week and eats like a caveman? The answer again is NO.
Defining our worth in things, status or relationship can lead us to feel unworthy when things don’t work out the way we think they should. I am firm believer that suicide has been attempted and completed when someone is at their lowest point feeling unloved, unwanted and unworthy. Young kids have taken their own lives after being told they should kill themselves by their peers. Adults have killed themselves after being rejected by their spouse or lover. There are others who have taken their lives after losing their business or career. When we lose what we think defines are value and worth it’s inevitable that we are going to wrestle with despair and feel lost. It’s also inevitable that we will believe we aren’t valued or worth anything. People struggle to choose life when they feel they are have no worth.
Personally, I am guilt of defining my worth in my career, relationship status and my physical appearance. I worked a dead end job for 10 years and felt completely devalued on a daily basis. I have been dumped more times than I count and tend to chase after the guy who only sees value in what my body can give him or wants to control me. I have felt more worthless in a few romantic relationships than I have felt these last few years of singlehood. Physically I have struggled with weight gain for years and am currently at my heaviest weight I’ve ever been (even heavier than when I was 9 months pregnant with both of my children.) I look in the mirror and see minimal glimpses of my youth but more and more changes that occur when one is considered “middle aged.” I dress to hide all the bulges that are present with being overweight and out of shape. I have spent many years feeling completely worthless.
If success, relationships and our physical appearance do not define us, what or who does? There are only two things in life that can define worth. One is the dictionary. According to Google, worth is defined as “the value equivalent to that of someone or something under consideration, the level at which someone or something deserves to be valued or rated.” Deserving is the key concept in that definition. Worth is dependent upon what is deserved. This definition makes it natural to get caught up in the idealogy that we get what we deserve so if we are getting failure, rejection and heartache, we must’ve done something to deserve it.
The second definer of worth would disagree. The other definer of worth is God. His definition of worth is simply this, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only son, that whoever believes in Him will not perish but will have eternal life.” (John 3:16)
God is the defines our worth because He is our creator. He created space, Earth, the planets and galaxies, the sun, moon and stars, and every creature that roams the Earth, including you and me. When an artist creates a painting, they know how much the supplies cost and how much sweat and tears went into making the artistic piece. Thus, they can set a price for it because they created it. The same goes for you and me. Because God created us, He knows us inside and out. He defines our worth and sets a value to each of us. The price He set for us is this-while we were still sinners, He sent His son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross for you and for me. (Romans 5:8) Christ’s death and resurrection is was the ultimate sacrifice made for those who live before Jesus, walk with Jesus and for those (including you and me) who came along after Jesus.
The Bible is full of examples of God’s love, deliverance and redemption. No greater story defines exactly what we mean to our Heavenly Father than Jesus’ crucifixion. Christ was nailed to cross and crucified in order that we can be cleansed from all sin and spend eternity with Him. Second Corinthians 5:21 explains it best, “God made the One who did not know sin to be sin for us, so that in Him we would become the righteousness of God.”
If you belong to God, you are His pride and joy. His love for you is endless and He pursues you daily. Your worth is defined in Him and Him alone. There is nothing, not your past, not your definition of failures, NOTHING, that can separate you from His love. (Romans 8:38) If you don’t yet belong to Him, I pray this message moves you to seek more about Him, His love for you and exactly how He defines you. I want to encourage you to attend a Easter church service or watch a sermon on YouTube to learn more about Jesus’ ministry, death and resurrection. I pray you choose Him, become a believer and seek His truths. But whether you know God already or not, know this-whenever you feel worthless or devalued, God says you are more precious than rubies (Proverbs 31:10) and He thinks you are to die for!
From my family to yours, Happy Easter. May God’s redeeming love penetrate your heart and His love overflow in you and through you today and always.