I have a few favorite quotes/sayings in life. My first would be Mother Teresa’s “Small acts of kindness, done with great love, change the world.” My second would be Audrey Hepburn’s, “I believe in pink…” My third would be “Never let anyone dull your sparkle.” On a side bar- my favorite paraphrase would have to be, “When life hands you lemons, make margaritas.” I call it a paraphrase because I think it’s actually supposed to say something about lemonade but seriously-if I’m drinking lemonade, it had better have some Patron mixed in it, and served on the rocks in a salted rim glass. Am I right? I’m digressing, my apologies.
“Never let anyone dull your sparkle” if taken literally, sounds like something you would say to a Vegas show girl or perhaps a cleaning lady-basically anyone that deals with shining things or wearing glitter. In reality this quote is simply another way of saying, “Don’t let others steal your joy” or even “Do not let the words or deeds of others define who you are.” A pretty deep meaning behind a very short quote, don’t ya think?
I gotta be honest with you-my life (as I’m sure some of yours’ also) has been full of “Sparkle Dullers”, “Joy Stealers” and outright pathological jerks. For years-I defined who I was based on how I was treated, the harsh words spoken to me and on the opinions of my critics. Basing your self-worth on what someone who doesn’t like you thinks of you is pretty reckless and gives that person too much power over you. I can’t tell you how many texts and phones calls I’ve made to my friends and few close family members, full of tears and brokenness expressing how much I felt like a total loser and not worthy of anything all because the voices of my critics rang too loudly in my mind.
Thankfully, God has blessed me with friends and family who speak truth into me regularly and have worked diligently to fill me up with words of affirmation, reminders of who I am in Christ, and all around uplifting encouragement. They never put me down for putting myself down (which by the way is not a helpful tactic. Putting someone down when they’re already down on themselves only pushes them down lower.) One friend in particular, calls me a diamond. Every time I get down on myself, she says to me, “Friend you’re a diamond. Shine like it.” But all these words of affirmation and encouragement simply aren’t enough if I don’t choose to believe them over myself. Believing in ourselves can be a very difficult thing-especially if we’ve spent most of our life believing in what our critics spoke about us.
The truth is-we are all diamonds, we should shine like it AND we should never let anyone dull our sparkle. For anyone that’s ever owned diamond jewelry, whether it’s a diamond ring, a pair of diamond earrings, or tennis bracelet, they know most people treat diamonds like the beautiful and expensive treasure they are. Some keep them in special cases, locked in safes, and purchase special insurance to ensure their diamonds are well protected. They always make sure to clean these precious gems before adorning them to capture the eye (and envy) of every passerby. Afterall, who doesn’t want to show off their diamonds?
Guess what that means for the diamond in you and me? It means we need to take care of ourselves by cleaning out our minds. We can do this utilizing positive self-talk, reminding ourselves who God made us to be in order to sparkle in a way that lights up a room as soon as we walk in. That sparkle inside each of us is what attracts others to us. The more we accept the words of affirmation and encouragement others speak into us and refute the naysayers mean words, the brighter our sparkle gets. The more we speak words of affirmation over ourselves, the more attractive our sparkle gets. And the more we speak words of affirmation and encourage over others, the bigger our diamond grows.
The bigger our diamond grows-the harsher our critics may get because they will be jealous of our happiness and angry that they can no longer steal our joy. Think about it-how many times have you watched two kids interacting (usually siblings)-one is doing their best to irritate the other. If the one who is doing the irritated gets a reaction from the other one, they will keep it up because they are thriving on irritating the reactor. But if the reactor instead chooses to not respond or chooses to respond in a positive manner, the irritator has lost their power. Jealous mean people are usually power people. Nothing frustrates a power person more than when they lose that power. It infuriates them. At first they will try harder to steal your joy but the more we choose to shine-eventually, the critics stop. They give up. They learn that what you and I think about ourselves holds a greater weight that what they think of us. They may still never like us, but those “Sparkle Dullers” will move on and find someone else to prey on, who thinks they’re nothing more than a cubic zirconia.
Here’s the kicker-thank God for the “Sparkle Dullers” and “Joy Stealers” in your life. Praise Him for the critics. Why? Do you know how a diamond is made? It’s starts as a piece of black coal and after years and years of hardcore pressure a beautiful, highly coveted, deeply admired, very precious gem is formed-a sparkling diamond. You may have been nothing more than a lump of coal in your past but today-you are a diamond. Speak life into yourself and into others. Let your light so shine before others and watch how others become attracted to you. Then see just how big your diamond is going to grow.
In an effort to show off my sparkle tonight-here’s a blended version of my three favorite quotes and one paraphrase, with my own twist. “Do random acts of kindness, love greatly, believe in everything pink, drink magaritas and always, always, always, make sure to never let your sparkle go dull-when you do all this, you, my diamond girl, are going to change your world!”