“Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm. For love is as strong as death, its jealousy as enduring as the grave. Love flashes like fire, the brightest kind of flame. Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it. If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned.”
Song of Solomon 8:6-7NLT
Oh my goodness! Did you see his smile? How cute was he? Do you think he noticed me? Oh my gosh! He’s coming over here…don’t act nervous, don’t say the wrong thing…he asked me for my phone number! Now I wait for his call….
He called…we’re going out. Could he be “the one?” He’s so cute…he’s so nice. Lord, I pray he’s the one…
The date was awesome and Lord-when can I kiss him again? He’s definitely “the one.” Lord, please make it happen in Your time and in Your will…
I don’t understand. Why did he dump me? What’s wrong with me? How could he take my love for so many years and then just throw it away in a text message? My heart is broken. I’ll never love again…
That guy is cute…is he single…does he notice me…
A vicious cycle a woman endures when she makes the idea of love, men and being in a relationship the god of her life. I have been that woman. I meet someone, fall head over heels in love and get my heart broken-repeatedly. The heartache made me bitter, skeptical and if you ask my family and closest friends, they’d say “closed off to dating” at this point.
Don’t get me wrong, I made my fair share of mistakes in past relationships. But I also loved each one with all my being. I talked about them to all of my friends, spent as much time with them as I could, fought hard to hold on to the relationship and in the end lost a few men who never really loved me. Worst, I lost a piece of me each time. The biggest mistake I made was worshiping them, putting them first in my life-even above God.
Putting others before God, no matter who it is, is a form of idolatry. Yes, God calls us to love one another, but He also says, “You must have no other gods before Me.” (Exodus 20:3) He repeatedly warns us that He is a very jealous God. Deuteronomy 4:24 tells us, “The Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.” God is so serious about not wanting us to worship other people that he compares Himself to a consuming fire. His jealousy for us should devour every part of us to the point that we have no desire to worship anyone or anything else.
God put Song of Solomon 8 on my heart this past week. He’s been tugging at my heart about idolatry and worshiping people. When I read verses 6 and 7, the hopeful romantic in me dreamed of a love like Solomon and his wife-a human kind of love, in fact, an Eros kind of love.
Then I re-read this passage and God opened my eyes to see that THIS is how God wants me and all of us to love Him. When I have a crush, he’s all I talk about, all I think about. I count down the days until I can see him or talk to him. With God, I take time spent with Him for granted. There are days I choose to sleep in rather than read His word and I rarely stop talking in my prayers to listen to His voice. Sometimes I’m embarrassed to talk about Him with other people. Yet God, in His patient grace and mercy still seeks me and pursues me daily. He has me tattooed on His heart, so why don’t I have Him tattooed on mine? He longs for me (and you) to place Him like a seal over our entire beings. He showed the strength of His love by dying on the cross for us and conquering death for us. If His jealousy is a consuming fire, think how more consuming His love for us is.
God’s love cannot be quenched by water or anything else. Paul tells us in Romans 8, “…that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (verses 38 and 39, NLT) David repeatedly reminds us in Psalms that God’s love is never ending. And just like we couldn’t do anything to earn our salvation, we can do nothing to buy God’s love.
This week, God has been asking me, “Why am I not your crush? Why don’t you talk about me the way you’ve talked about those men of your past? They shattered your heart but I would never leave you wounded, broken or questioning your self-worth. To Me, you are far greater than rubies. To me my darling, you surpass them all.” I had no answer for Him, only conviction in my heart and a realization of the form of idolatry I’ve practiced for far too long.
God wants to be first in my life and yours. No matter if you’re married, single, divorced, or widowed, God wants to be first-above your spouse, significant other, even before our children. God first, other second, ourselves third…that’s the order I was taught at a very young age yet fail to practice. I pray this post opens up every reader’s eyes to examine where God is ranked in their life and to see if there is anyone or anything they are putting in place of God. If you find something, confess it and know that He forgives. Don’t shame yourself or allow the enemy to fill you with guilt. Remember, nothing we do can stop God from loving us. Let’s all choose to love God like the love described in Song of Solomon 8-like a consuming fire with the brightest flames. And let’s talk about how awesome He is to everyone we meet like we would if we all had “just a little crush”.